Choosing a Flower Girl

Every bridal mag is filled with pictures of adorable flower girl dresses, and most brides love the idea of a beautiful little girl tossing petals down the aisle before she makes her big entrance. If you’re thinking about asking a special little one to be your flower girl, here are some tips.

First, consider the candidate’s age and temperament. No matter how cute she is, a shy girl won’t make a good flower girl. Infants may be adorable, but they are also unpredictable. If you choose a baby, make sure you’ll be okay with any suddenly fussiness or crying. The ideal age for a flower girl is 4-9. Any older and you’ll want to make them junior bridesmaids instead.

You’ll want to ask the parents first before saying anything to the little girl. This way you’ll avoid any disappointment if the parents decline. If they accept, be sure they and your flower girl are included in all pre-wedding festivities.

While it’s customary for the bride to chose the dress her flower girl will wear, listen to the parent’s suggestions as well. As far as paying for the dress goes, it’s usually the parent’s responsibility, but it’s fine to offer if you want.

Your flower girl and her parents should always be invited to the reception. Expecting them to go home after the ceremony and pictures is extremely rude and sends the message that their daughter was simply an accessory for the photos. Provide a kid friendly meal and an age appropriate wedding favor. She should also receive an appropriate thank you gift at the rehearsal dinner.

Once she’s walked down the aisle she should be allowed to sit with her parents if she wants. The younger the child the less likely they’ll be able to stand quietly for the ceremony, especially if it’s a long religious one.

Finally, prepare for the worst. If your flower girl gets sudden case of stage fright or throws a tantrum just as she’s supposed to walk down the aisle, don’t get upset. Kids are unpredictable and people will understand!