Grooms Need Pampering Too!

Here is a fun video showing how your groom can pamper himself before the big day-after all, they want to look good too!

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Good Lord, This one is a humdinger. A story of my wedding day. A cautionary tale for those who haven’t done it yet, but who may decide for Some odd reason that They want to wreck their happiness with a harrowing day like No other.

(Gonna Have to duck from flying cutlery after my wife reads that last bit.)

Seriously, though. A tale of derring doofus from a man who forgot his brain on his wedding day….and the day before for that matter. Ask questions before you get married. And more than just do I really want to do this? The reason for this statement from me is fairly simple. I didn’t. Let’s go the night before the wedding, at the rehearsal, at church. I notice a few things, like we aren’t really going through too much of the ceremony. Being an idiot, and a semi stressed one at that,I go along in what can only be called an unthinking manner. when I say “not too much of the ceremony”, I should be more specific. None of it, besides the order of who’s walking up the aisle when and who’s gonna have the rings. I remember nothing else. There may have been more but I was busy not knowing what the hell I was doing to ask any questions.

Fast forward to The wedding day. It’s 3:10, only a few minutes late, and things are going smoothly…my wife walks up and I realize she’s gonna have issues with the train of her wedding gown, she’s walking right up the middle of the aisle, between the chairs, rather than around the side. There I am moving chairs around making sure nothing catches her dress. A very small indicator that things will soon go very very wrong.

We then do the candle lighting, It goes smoothly, I only shake visibly for a few moments. Nice. At least we didn’t drop the extra long match and burn down the church…. maybe we can get throught this without incident.

Oh no. Nothing’s ever that easy.

Before the vows, He asks questions. I’m in a fog. The first time he asks, I miss it. He hadn’t asked me questions or told me there would be any! I wasn’t ready for an exam!!! He had to prompt me for an answer, and tell me what I was supposed to say. I wasn’t ready for questions because I hadn’t asked about it the night before. He tells me to answer “yes” to the next few questions. I do. Thinking That “YES” Would be the right way to answer any question, He goes to the vows and asks “Will you take Sue, to be your lawfully wedded wife….” Guess what I answer.

YES!

The Whole place, under their breath says “Mike, you’re supposed to say “I do”.

I don’t know If I turned all the colors of the rainbow, But I’m sure I hit several of them right at that moment from sheer embarrassment. All because I didn’t ask questions. Let’s see, Oh Yeah, The Deacon screwed Up the Order on things, and we had rings on our fingers before the vows. And not knowing any better, BECAUSE I HADN’T ASKED, I put the ring on the wrong finger. I figure I should get a pass on this because I don’t wear jewelry. At all, until that moment anyway. But my mother decided to whisper to me that It was on the wrong hand. I missed what she said.

The church went silent and everyone heard her repeat “The ring’s on the wrong finger”

I think I turned several colors there as well. I may have hit more colors then they have in the rainbow that day.

So if yer getting married. ASK QUESTIONS. Ask EVERYONE questions. About everything. Even if It sounds silly. I’m guessing it’s easier to feel stupid for asking a silly question before the wedding than find out you should have asked questions afterwards.

Submitted by: Mike

Groom’s don’t often get much input in the planning of their wedding, but when it comes to chosing what they’ll wear for the big day, the choice should be theirs. After all, you wouldn’t expect him to chose your gown for you, right? Let him chose something he’ll feel good in! For some tips and a look at the latest trends in men’s formalwear, check out this great video!

All right, you got the proposal, you got the ring, you set the date but you’re afraid the groom won’t make it to the wedding on time. You’re dating the man who is late to every function. It is not really fashionable but you love him too much to not marry him over this minor annoyance.

If you fear your wedding may have you standing in the shadows staring at an empty altar, have no fear, there is one simple solution. Have an evening wedding. You don’t even have to tell anybody why. They will be so impressed by the elegant sound of it that they won’t even consider you’re trying to make sure the job gets done.

What does this solve? Well for one you don’t have to have a custom invite made for him that invites him to the church at a time calculated with his usual-lateness time factored in. The downside to that would be him showing up on time for the wedding and who’s to say he won’t think he’s been left standing at the altar. Oh, and second, you won’t have to marry the first guy you see in your distress if you’re left waiting too long.

Think about your decision, and remember that this is your decision regarding your wedding, not your mom’s or his mom’s or your maid of honor’s. Unless there is some reason that you can think of that you would consider as an obstacle to getting married in the evening, you should have no problem making this happen.

Now that you’re committed to an evening wedding you have opened yourself up to a world of fun choices available only to couples who marry at night.

You can pick a different time of year if you marry inside. How about December with Christmas lights, or any time of year with your evening wedding as an excuse for decorating with lights?

You can pick a venue that may be closed to the public in the evening. Many historic places, gardens, museums and even aquariums offer the opportunities for evening parties and weddings. Even if not advertised it doesn’t hurt to approach an establishment to see if they would consider it. You might need to work with a wedding planner that could ensure a good relationship and would be familiar with contracts to protect both you and the establishment since weddings might not be their everyday business and for you, it is intended naturally as a once in a lifetime experience.

Whatever you decide, making the move to an evening wedding may make for a more enjoyable experience. It would take the stress off having enough time to get things done before the time you’ve both set to begin your lives together.

I think we really need to hear from people who either have been waiting at the altar or who’ve had a nice evening wedding (or not, maybe somebody would like to share if they think an evening wedding is a bad idea).

Submitted By: Violette DeSantis

Photo: Sue Walsh